by Jeremy Michaels
A lot of people in my field write about how to be successful, but I try to avoid it. It’s just not something I believe is important.
Now, that might seem weird to you. Like, what kind of loser doesn’t want to be successful? Me, I’m that loser in your mind. Or am I really?
Obviously, the first problem with success is how you define success. Is it becoming famous? rich? creating a world changing business? coming up with an idea that changes people’s lives? helping others? being happy? So many people with values similar to mine would reject the traditional definitions of success which are being rich or famous, or creating a huge business or even having the best-selling book.
And those people are right in my opinion. If all you’re striving for is money, you’ll do horrible things to get it. If all you want is a successful business, you’ll screw people over to get it. If all you want is fame, you’ll give up your dignity to achieve it. And that’s not “love” which completely goes against my character and my values. I am love…
I could probably get a book on the New York Times best-seller list if I really tried, but it’s not something I care enough about, and I know I’d have to do things I wouldn’t be happy doing in order to get there. I’d have to make promises I couldn’t deliver on, sell something to people who are looking for answers I don’t have, trick them into buying my book and go against my morals and character to become successful in that marketing, advertising and business field.
I could make a lot more money than I make now if I capitalized on all the readers I have and pressured them into buying something or doing something to benefit me toward success. But I really don’t think that’s a good thing, nor a loving way to be so I’d feel crappy doing that. It’s not me and never will be. I’m the oppostie of an entrepeneur because i am love and I refuse to profit and gain off others.
So those who teach you to be successful or are already successful, they’ll share methods that are a bit shady sometimes. If not, often they sell you platitudes that sound good but are too vague to really mean anything.
I’ve read many articles and blogs on how to be successful and I can’t avoid finding them because they’re everywhere, and rarely will any of them really show you how to get where you want to go. And when you don’t get there, you’ll blame not the success system, but your own inadequacies. And that’s ultimately the deeper problem.
Whatever your definition of success is, it’s something you’re looking for. Something that exists in the future. It’s based on your desire to achieve something, your feelings that you’re not where you want to be. That’s why the snake oil salesmen are so “successful”. They capitalize on the feelings of inadequacies that other people have. And I think that’s horrible and the sole reason why the world is the way it is.
But beyond that, the trap of striving for this future “success”, it’s never-ending. You strive for more, and then when you get there, if you ever get there, you’ll strive for more again. You’re never satisfied. People who have a billion dollars, for example, they’re successful, right? Why don’t they stop trying to make money, then? Why would they possibly need more than a billion dollars? How can you possibly spend that much? They strive to make more because there will never be enough. They’ll never be successful enough. That’s true not just of the rich, but of anyone who strives for their version of success. Striving is a condition that doesn’t have an end, unless you give it up.
Now let’s talk my perspective. I might have a lot of readers now on this website, over 100,000 a day but I don’t feel that’s what makes me a success. I’ve been a success since day 1, because even when I had 0 readers, I was doing what I loved. Even when no one else would have called me a success, I absolutely loved writing and self improving and I was as happy as I am right now.
Success isn’t about achieving something in the future to me, but about doing something right now that you love. So doesn’t that mean I care about success? Well, sure, because I define success as whatever I love to do and passionate about. I’d rather live comfortably and happy then strive for a never ending more that the averaged person is conditioned to. Success really doesn’t have a meaning, does it? Because your definition of success is whatever your mind and perspective makes it out to be. So if success can mean anything, then it means nothing.
So forget about “success”, and just find value. Values and morals include happiness, joy, passion, love, giving, caring, sharing, helping and awesomeness right now, in this moment. “That” is a success you can achieve without any self-help course, without any methods, without going against your character and purpose, without using, owing, borrowing, forgetting, neglecting and unloving people. It’s a lifestyle of value and purpose that brings unlimited happiness and love.