Love, But Don’t Smother.

by Jeremy Michaels

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Sometimes all she or he wants is a hug, a kiss and to feel your presence. When you fall in love with someone, it’s natural to want to shower them with love and affection. But you should never want to overdo it. There is a difference between loving someone and smothering them. I will never sit here and say that too much love is a bad thing. And you can’t make your partner hate you just because you love them a lot. But you can definitely make your partner dislike you when you start smothering them. To many people out there, smothering love is nothing but an overindulgence of affection. You may think smothering excessive love is a true sign of your love for a special someone. But in reality, smothering is a selfish act. You don’t smother your partner because of love. You smother someone with affection because you crave for their affection, you want their attention, or probably because you may want to help them with their troubles, or you may want to protect them.

But are you doing it because you think it’ll make your lover feel better? Probably not. Almost all the time, you may be smothering your partner for selfish reasons, either to reaffirm your relationship status or to feel better about yourself as a perfect example of a loving partner. You may even be forcing them to love you in a way that is unnatural to them. Your smothering can be translated as overprotective or even a lack of trust.

Love, but don’t smother.

There’s a thin line between showing affection and smothering someone. You may not want to smother affection on your partner, but have you ever felt like your partner tries to push you away or looks for excuses to get away from you now and then? You may just be an unintentional smothering lover. Firstly, expressing love and smothering affection is relative and subjective. What’s smothering to one partner could be unaffectionate to another. When you take time to fall in love slowly with each other, these are little things both of you can learn about each other and each other’s expectations when it comes to affection. If you feel like you’re smothering your partner or if your partner ever tells you they need space, here are some things you need to do to take the stress off the relationship.

  • Don’t use love to control them. It is important that you do not expect to be loved a certain way. We are all different and have different ways of expression. Be at peace with your partners way. Love needs time to bloom. Do you say “I love you” often to your sweetheart because you feel like saying it, or is it because you want to hear your lover say it back to you? Don’t use love as an excuse to control your partner because in time, you will push them away. When you shower affection in excess, just to test your lover’s feelings or expect something back in return later, that’s definitely smothering and many find this sickening as it feels like suffocation.
  • Give space. Spending time with each other can feel great. But even if you’re having the time of your life in your partner’s arms, learn to back away and give space now and then. You may not realize it, but at times, constantly having you around all the time may end up annoying your partner. The saying, absence makes the heart grow fonder, exists for a reason. Remember that your partner was a person long before you came along.
  • Keep it exciting. Be spontaneous, make your partner want more all the time by giving from your heart, not your mind. Be innovative and look for new ways to keep things exciting in love. Instead of forcing your partner to treat you better or like a princess all the time, do something that’ll inevitably make your partner treat you better. Almost always, we ask why our partners have become boring but we don’t realize just how boring we’ve become ourselves. Keep the spark alive, date, invest in your relationship and make each other a priority without burdening one another.
  • Don’t be desperate. Can you both sit in silence and experience pleasure? It feels great and you should try it. Can you sit beside your partner for half an hour without craving for their attention? If married; if all you want to do is have sex or a quickie, this may be acceptable at first and even seem fun, especially when both of you are still young in love. But if you find it hard to just spend time quietly around each other, perhaps you’re someone who wants attention all the time and seeking it in the wrong ways. The more you crave for attention, the more your partner would shy away from giving you more attention. And the more your partner avoids giving you attention, the more you’ll start to smother them with affection in the hope of reciprocation. You never want someone to love you out of obligation, so let your partner love you in their own special way. If you force it, this cycle will continue until both of you are confused, annoyed and bitter all of the time. 

 

Be loving, not suffocating…

Juicing & Smoothies.

by Jeremy Michaels

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Juicing vs. Smoothies? Smoothies and juicing have been the hype lately with all these new blenders and juicers being manufactured. While both can be healthy and boost your fruit and vegetable intake (something most Americans need to do) and are great for getting a variety of produce into your diet, one is the better choice.

That’s smoothies. Why? Juicing leaves behind a pulp – which contains fiber and nutrients that you end up tossing away, thus you lose most of the benefits of whole fruits and vegetables. Blending produce into a smoothie, however, preserves fiber and a smoothie can deliver an extra boost of vitamins, minerals and phytochemicals because it often includes fruit skins and pith. If your smoothie includes yogurt or kefir, you get some calcium too. If your smoothie includes nuts and/or seeds, you get even more vitamins and minerals. If your smoothie includes supplements and super foods, the sky is the limit. Blending, however, introduces oxygen and sometimes heat, which will knock out a little vitamin C and some B vitamins. But no big deal really, as most of us get plenty of Vitamin C and produce isn’t a top source of the most sensitive B vitamins.

Either way, enjoy your fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, herbs, spices and even nut butters in a homemade smoothie or juice. Start your mornings with a natural energy boost by juicing and/or blending a nutritious smoothie. For smoothies, I suggest buying a blender, preferably a Vitamix or a Nutribullet. For juicing, I suggest buying a Omega Masticating Juicer or Breville Juice Fountain.

But… smoothie-lovers and juicer-lovers beware, though. Smoothies and juicing can easily turn into high-calorie, sugar-delivery devices if they include sweetened yogurt, sweetened juice, sorbet, frozen yogurt or ice cream (that’s called a milkshake, folks) and, sadly, many made-to-order and bottled smoothies and juices include these ingredients. That’s why it’s important to make and blend your own nutritious smoothie and juice your own juices at home with organic fruits and vegetables, raw super foods and natural wholesome ingredients.

Below are some nutritious smoothie and juicing recipes… 

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CLOSING THOUGHT: Juicing and blending smoothies is great for health…but be very mindful that there is no substitute than the actual whole fruits and whole vegetables in your diet. Eating the actual fruits and vegetables has way more nutrients and is overall more beneficial than any other food out there. Also it’s easier to take in more calories when you drink it instead of eating them. The Produce for Better Health Foundation recommends no more than 8 to 12 ounces of blended or juiced produce daily.

 

 

 

6 Places You Will Not Find Your Future Husband or Wife.

by Jeremy Michaels

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I’m always pleased to hear the stories of happy, confident men and women who had no prospect in sight for marriage and then meet a person who they enter into a courtship with. It’s a blessing to see how being happy alone allows them to have a healthy long lasting relationship with someone.

Over the years, I’ve heard many men and women say things like “there are no good men or women” or “good men or good women are hard to find.” However, there are many places you may meet your future husband or wife. Responsible dating is definitely one way that could lead to that. In this blog, I want to share some places you should avoid! There are places where your future husband or future wife will likely never show up.

Here are 6 Places You Will Not Find Your Future Husband or Wife:

1 – In Your Dreams. There’s nothing wrong with considering the type of man or woman you should marry. However, if you find yourself excessively daydreaming and fantasizing about a man or woman, you are creating a situation where you are not choosing to love, but instead dreaming of romance and superficial things. Instead, use this time to focus on you and become the type of person you desire to marry. Become the person you want to marry and have a reality mindset.

2 – In a Gender Bashing Mindset. Human nature makes it easier to identify and focus on the bad in people. However, if you desire to get married, you must learn to see the redeeming qualities of men and women and practice the principles of grace and forgiveness. Besides, what man or woman would want to willingly open his or her heart and life to a man or woman who they know would so quickly see their faults?

3 – In the Middle of Emotional Rage. As I’ve mentioned before, men desire a simple woman and women desire a man with vision. Part of this simplicity and vision is stability. It’s natural to get upset or disappointed from time to time, but if you are unable to communicate those senses in a mature way and compromise, it is unlikely they will be committing the rest of their life to you.

4 – In a Moment of Desperation. Desperation is a purely emotional response. You can’t follow God’s will for your life and respond to this emotion at the same time. Wisdom says wait; emotions say hurry. People who are overly eager to date are easy to spot and even easier to avoid. Desperation looks bad on you and will keep you single.

5 – In a Selfish Mindset. Being selfless is love. So if you have selfish ways, most likely your love life will never become successful. You’ll end up bumping heads with every partner you come across because you’re not giving, understanding and caring. A selfish person deserves to be single forever.

6 – Whenever You Are Searching or Hunting for Him/Her. This does not mean women and men are required to just sit around at home waiting for the doorbell to ring but it does mean you have to be the primary leader regarding the direction of the relationship, especially when you begin courting. Love and commitment is a choice and more about creating a relationship with someone, than finding the person of your dreams.

CLOSING THOUGHT: If you want to be in a successful happy marriage, just know it is more important for you to invest time into preparing yourself to be a wonderful wife or amazing husband than it is for you to focus making someone your husband/wife. Also it’s important to grow to love and grow to love your partner. Do your part to date responsibly, get to know him/her well, create the foundation, and seek God’s guidance in moving forward with your relationship decisions.

Maybes.

by Jeremy Michaels

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Maybe it was never suppose to be what we thought it would be.
Maybe it just suppose to be a few good dinners to fill the lonely nights.
Maybe it was never suppose to be a forever kind of thing.
Maybe I’m suppose to learn from you so I could prepare for the next.
Maybe I’m suppose to adjust my expectations for future relationships.
Maybe we were never suppose to be anything more than a friendship.
Maybe we were suppose to something refreshing and stress free. Maybe not?
Maybe you weren’t really the right one for me and we forced it to be more.
Maybe you weren’t really who you said you were.
Maybe I was hiding some parts of me to keep you.
Maybe we were something that could’ve been more but it wasn’t meant to be.

You see, sometimes things just don’t work out.
Sometimes the season ends before you figure out the reason it started.
Sometimes what you get is less than what it was advertised to be.
Sometimes you have to move on.
Sometimes you have to accept what it is and let go of what you thought it was.

Maybe all the maybes will make up for the mistakes.
Maybe they won’t.
Maybe this a lesson for us both.

6 Reasons To Avoid Canned Foods.

by Jeremy Michaels

Any canned food whether it’s canned beans, canned fruits, canned vegetables, canned soup, canned tuna fish, canned tomato sauce, canned soda, etc. is unhealthy for you.

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Here are 6 Reasons To Avoid Canned Foods:

1 – Canned food is a type of processed food. Processed food is not real food. Processed food contains harmful food additives and preservatives. Food additives and preservatives lower our metabolism rate and put us a greater risk of disease such as diabetes, cancers and heart disease. There are so many food additives and preservatives in canned food, and all are referred to as something different. Every few months a new name is established for the same ingredient to come up with names that are more friendly sounding. To counteract the effect of preservatives rotting the canned food, manufacturers add in large amounts of refined salt.

2 – Canned foods have about 15 times the amount of sodium you are required to eat for a day. An excessive amount of refined salt in these products leads to nutrient deficiencies and blood and heart problems.

3 – Canned foods have around 80% less nutrients than fully ripe fruits and vegetables. So when you buy canned corn, canned pumpkin, canned pineapple, canned beans, or canned cranberry sauce, you’re not getting the nutritional benefits of those foods. Get fresh or frozen produce (fruits and veggies) and loose or bagged beans.

4 – Canned foods have a plastic coating inside the can to keep the food fresh inside. The inner plastic lining is Bisphenol or BPA, and it is a harmful poisonous coating that has shown to kill rats in labs even at concentrations 1000 times lower than what the averaged American consumes per meal. BPA is a toxic chemical that causes hormone imbalances and a wide variety of other health issues like hypertension, obesity, aggression, cancer, and heart disease. The Environmental Working Group conducted a study and found that more than 70% of cans with big brand names have toxic BPA in them.

5 – Aluminum cans leak (just like aluminum pots and pans). Most people are unaware that when food is packaged in a can, it is then heated up again to supposedly retrain freshness. Heating up these aluminum cans actually leaks aluminum free radicals into the food. Over time, too much aluminum in the body can cause mental and memory problems like Alzheimer’s disease. More than 5000 million pounds of aluminum is used every year for making aluminum cans since they are more light weight, and are a cheaper material to use for big corporations. Most canned foods like soups, vegetables, chicken or beef broth as well as tomato sauces are made out of aluminum because it is cheaper for the company. Even though these cans are lined BPA lining, this lining does not completely protect the food from leached aluminum particles during the can heating process.

6 – The quality of food inside canned goods is not good at all. Companies will do anything to save money and profit, and this means packing in the lowest quality foods at all costs. The reality is that your can of kidney beans, corn, tuna or spaghetti could put your health at risk.

The Solution:

  • Completely eliminate canned food! Instead of canned tomato sauce, get tomato sauce in glass jars. Instead of getting canned vegetables and fruits such as canned corn, canned pineapple, etc. get your produce fresh or frozen, and organic. Instead of getting canned soup, make your own fresh soup with lentils and barley or get soup in a carton. Instead of canned spaghetti and canned tuna, cook your own fresh spaghetti and tuna. When it comes to canned soda, canned beer, canned tea and canned energy drinks, eliminate these high sugar processed beverages completely.

Did You Know?

  • The risk of developing chronic diseases such as cancer, heart diseaseobesitydiabetes, nervous system disorders and Alzheimer’s disease goes down completely by eliminating processed food.

The 7 Regrets of Dying.

by Jeremy Michaels

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1 – I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself. Most people live their whole lives on society’s standards, being someone they’re not, living a lie. This is the most common regret. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled and how many people haven’t found their purpose in life. The averaged person dies not believing in themselves, not being themselves and not being true to who they are. 

2 – I wish I hadn’t worked so hard. People miss their children’s youth, partner’s companionship, opportunities and success from overworking and spending the majority of their lives on the treadmill of work, either chasing money or struggling with supporting their families.

3 – I wish I had the courage to express my feelings. Many people suppress their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Bitterness, resentment and an undeveloped mindset became normal for these people in their lifetime.

4 – I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. Often people would not truly realize the full benefits of their friends until their dying weeks and it is not always possible to track them down. Many people become so caught up in their own lives living in self interest that they let golden friendships slip by over the years and end up having deep regrets about not giving friendships and relationships with people the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

5 – I wish that I had let myself be happier. Happiness is ultimately a choice. Many people don’t realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They stay stuck in old patterns and habits letting life experiences determine their happiness. They’re usually overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to themselves, that they were content, when deep within, they didn’t make the choice to become happy.

6 – I wish I ate and lived healthy on a daily basis. Health is life. Often people lay on their deathbeds regretting not eating healthy or not avoiding certain harmful things like cigarettes and too much alcohol. They lived a life of “you only have one life” and made bad choices for their bodies and overtime create disease. These people most likely kill themselves in time.

7 – I wish I didn’t make such dumb decisions in my life. People make mistakes and mistakes are good for us. But a known dumb decision that you know you’ll regret later is not a mistake. Especially when the decision is life changing. Often people die unhappy by thinking back to these decisions and life choices. Some examples are murder, rape, getting an abortion, not finishing school, not going for a certain opportunity, being an alcoholic, taking drugs, getting pregnant, sleeping around, eating unhealthy, doing fraud to people, being in a gang, being too religious, not saving money, not experiencing more out of life, etc.