Take A Chance With “Him” (For The Ladies)

by Jeremy Michaels

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Ladies, I understand your cold heart. We’ve all been hurt before.

But…

If “he” was trying to show you something different, would you be open minded enough to see it?

If he told you the only thing he was trying to do was make you happy, would you believe a man like that existed?

Does the way you see your past put limitations on the quality of men you meet?

Are you secure and strong enough to trust a man confidently until he gives you a reason not to?

Would a man be able to get a fair chance with you, or is the thought of a man with genuine intentions that farfetched?

Could a good man of worth get to know you and enjoy time with you without feeling like you were examining and dissecting his every move?

Could a consistent genuine man be human enough to make a mistake, without you judging him for it, comparing him to your past?

TAKE A CHANCE WITH HIM!!! When you make us put in work, the boys will fade and the gentlemen will remain.

Judge a man by these 5 things: 1. His heart. 2. His values/priorities. 3. His goals. 4. His actions. 5. His words.

Never judge a man based on your past or previous experiences. No new relationship you enter will ever have a chance if you’re still upset and hurt from your previous relationship. Heal from your previous heartbreaks before you love again. Defrost your cold heart, vanish your bitterness and fade away your pessimistic attitude.

TAKE A CHANCE WITH HIM!!! Allow him to learn you. Don’t expect him to know your needs, desires and demands without communication. And don’t expect him to understand your experiences, past and current mindset without communication.

Remember that the “one” won’t come with a sign saying “I’m the perfect person for you”, he will come with some nervousness, a little uncertainty and a lot of hope.  

 

 

 

Take It Slow.

by Jeremy Michaels

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Sometimes the best approach towards love is to take things slow. If it’s meant to happen, then it will happen when it’s supposed to. Have the patience to be sure that you’re building something real. There’s nothing wrong with taking things one day at a time. Don’t rush love! If you do, you’ll fall into a situation with somebody who wants to care for you, but isn’t prepared to catch you. There is nothing wrong with taking things slow. Don’t let the infatuation phase have you making promises you can’t keep. Give yourself room to grow, give yourself room to make mistakes, and give yourself time to become better. There is no rush when it comes to happiness, love, or a healthy relationship. Use your patience to protect your joy. Don’t be afraid to look at a person and see potential beyond their flaws. They shouldn’t have to be perfect for you to see that they’re genuine. Happiness isn’t something you can be cheated out of, but it is something you can deny yourself of when you fail to work for it. There is no formula to the perfect relationship and no set time limit to secure forever. When it’s right, you’ll know. You just can’t be scared to fight for something. You don’t get the reward if you’re scared to take the risk. You may have to sort through your share of coal before you find your diamond. But when you find it, treasure it. You’ll have times where things get rough, you’ll have times where you can’t see eye to eye, but that doesn’t mean quit. If you really want a real relationship of happiness, take it slow, let it grow out of choice and be committed to making things work.

Me & Relationships.

I’m not down for time wasted.
I’m not down for empty emotions.
I’m not down for being used.
I’m not down for being heartbroken.

I’m not a “down for whatever” kind of person when it comes to matters of my heart. I don’t do false relationships (a.k.a situationships) and I don’t get blinded by fake love. I’m for unconditional love and happiness. And I need passion, purpose and peace.

I’m inspired by and attracted to true possibilities. If I know the person or situation has none, I don’t want anything to do with it or them. We’re either building something (friendship, relationship, business, etc.) or we’re wasting each other’s time.

I’m on a mission and when you’re on a mission, you have direction. I understand the importance of purpose and I don’t have time to waste. Every person that attempts to enter my life, I ask myself what’s the motive? intentions? purpose?

I know every situation isn’t going to lead to a forever, but it has to at least contribute to making me better. It takes a lot of time and energy to get to know a person, so if we’re talking, it has to be for a reason. It has to have meaning. It has to have purpose and the motives and intentions must be positive.

And if this is asking for too much, I don’t want nothing to do with you.

I have to know that you won’t shut me out when you’re angry. I have to know you’ll still give me the best of you in the worst of times. I have to know you’ll still value my time, even when it isn’t convenient or when you’re busy. I have to know you’ll respect my heart and our bond, even if you aren’t always pleased with my actions. I have to know if I can trust you, and that stretches far beyond cheating. I have to know you’ll be loyal and there through the ups and downs and storms of random life situations. I have to know you’ll value and appreciate my presence and efforts.

I’m not saying I want something perfect. But I am saying I value security. I want something that can endure. I don’t want that relationship you feel you have to escape from, or the one that becomes a burden. I don’t want to argue about the same things over and over again, or have to worry that I’ll lose your trust every time I make a mistake. I don’t want to get used, heartbroken, or waste my time or my partner’s time.

It’s not that I don’t want a relationship, it’s just that I don’t want all the stuff I’ve ever known relationships to be. Love is less about finding the right person and more about creating the right relationship with someone. It’s a commitment to protecting another person’s heart with the same passion you use to guard your own.

Worthy recognizes worthy.

When I see a keeper, I’d keep her. Whether she’s a potential friend or potential lover.