Money Is Evil?

by Jeremy Michaels

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We all heard the phrase “money is the root of all evil” but I disagree with that phrase. I believe “the love of money is the root of all evil”. Money makes it easy for us to fulfill our desires, expand our self concept and to become self-centered and selfish. Selfishness becomes greed. The love of money – in other words greed, has become the evil in our society. It’s not the money itself but the love of money which has reduced the value of human life. Many people willingly profit at the expense of so many people, and that’s the true evil. That’s the dark force behind the scenes of money.

The desperation and greed caused by unlimited wants, unequal distribution of resources and a restrictive means of gaining something, is the sole and ultimate cause of stress, frustration, anger, rage and all crimes. 90% of crimes are based on money. It’s the reason why the people in control of the world and the money, drugs, medicine, food and oil are so corrupted. The root causes of poverty and crime are society’s perceived hierarchy of its citizens and the monetary value of their labor. This has distorted the distribution of wealth across society. Out of this is often born crime, often motivated by economics to sell the proceeds of crime in order to survive. The greed for money motivates an increasing number of human citizens to stealing, violence, rape and murder.

There are only a few ways that money is good. It’s that we use it as a value for trade, services and goods, to provide food and shelter for our families and giving it for donations to charity. However there are many more ways in which money is bad. Money and wealth have been the most explosive divide in history, far beyond religion and beliefs. Money has divided our society into classes. Society often judges people according how much money they have, so money will always equal status. In some institutions you mean nothing if you don’t have money. Revolutions have generally involved the poor fighting for their rights and a share of the money from the minority rich. It can be argued that the existence of money has turned man against himself.

As for the people who control the world and the world’s money supply, you can be certain that the accumulation of wealth and power of money and profit drives economic crime. Money = power, and power = control. It makes those people embezzle, swindle, create war crimes and even colonize other countries to control their resources and money systems. The painful reality about poverty all over the world is that it’s completely unnecessary. It’s continuance is not God’s doing, it’s our doing – humans. The burning desire from corporations and banking institutions and shareholders to make more money for themselves and profit off people and things recently caused the world close to the brink of financial collapse in 2008, creating this economy of bad times. You can have large amounts of money and power concentrated in the hands of a very few, or you can have democracy. You cannot have both.

War is business. Violence is business. Disease is business. Prison is business. Churches are business. Real estate is business. Technology is business. Everything is business. Go to Times Square and look around. Everything is advertisements of businesses. That’s all the world is, a BIG BUSINESS. We live in a corporatocracy ran by people of greed. And unfortunately what happens on Wall Street affects main street. The 1%ers are now way more richer than the 99% of us now than any time in history.

See, money is important. It’s as important as the food, shelter and medicine it buys and the schools, stores and businesses it builds. It’s incredibly important. And only a broke or dishonest person would tell you it’s not important. There’s no doubt, we all need money or we can’t have a place to live, food to eat, or clothes to wear. But that’s the system we were born and raised into. There was a time when money did not exist, as we know it today. The whole idea of money came about as a symbol of value that is accepted as a means of payment for goods and services. Money was supposed to be a good thing but in the past centuries, the love of money is nothing less than pure evil.

If money was such a good thing then it would serve the people, but instead people serve the money. Money can be a good thing but who’s really in control? Do you think you’re in control because you make the money? Because you have a job? a career? a profitable business? you invested in something? Exactly how much control do you have over your own life when all you do is serve pieces of paper and the system that relies on it?

People say “time is money” but is it really? Money can buy sex but not love, medicine but not health, luxuries but not culture, a house but not a home, a bed but not sleep, a computer but not knowledge, education but not wisdom and common sense, temporary happiness but not a life of happiness and peace. Too many people allow their worth to be defined by money. Too many people are out chasing money instead of purpose. And at the end we are all becoming debt slaves.

Picture a world without money…

Time.

by Jeremy Michaels

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Our time is limited and precious. Time is of the essence and no minute past the present is promised. We should never waste our time. We should never waste our time with someone who’s not worthy of our time. We should never waste our time on the irrelevant and the unimportant. We should never waste our time thinking about the past. We should never waste our time worrying, fearing, stressing, being angry, dwelling, holding a grudge, looking for revenge and so on. You should have no time for hate, no time for drama and no time for negativity. And we should never waste our time kicking our burdens when we could be counting our blessings. Time is the most valuable thing in life. Time heals all wounds. Time is a snitch, it will keep telling you everything you need to know. Everything gets revealed in time. There’s no better teacher than time. Liars get caught in time. And your mistakes and lessons get taught in time. Time sure does have a way of changing your perspective on things in life. Time shows you who’s real and what’s real. And the greatest thing you can give someone is your time and vice versa. Through it all, the ups, the downs, the highs, the lows, the good, and the bad it’s important to remember that life is short and your time is limited.

Whether you’re living in the best of times or the worst of times, this is your only time. Life is happening right now so live in the now. Instead of dwelling on the past, or worrying about the future, just practice being and living in your “now”. You can’t learn something new or uncover a new opportunity that’s happening now if your mind is stuck in another time. Remember, right now is the only moment guaranteed to you. Right now is life. Don’t miss it. Live in the now! The most underrated moment is now. There is no time more perfect than right now. Focus on today. This minute, these moments, are all you have and all that is guaranteed to you. Tomorrows aren’t promised. Don’t waste them dwelling on the unnecessary. The most important time of your life is now. The most important thing you can do in your life is what you doing now, today. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. You can’t go back and make a new beginning, but starting today you can create a brand new ending. Cherish your nows and everything that comes with it.

How would you live today if you understood tomorrow wasn’t promised? Exactly. So why do we live in procrastination as if our days aren’t numbered? Take a walk through your local cemetery and see if death has a age limit, a certain color, or a gender preference. IT DOESN’T! No one knows when there time is up, so make sure you don’t waste the time that you are given on this earth. When you understand tomorrow isn’t guaranteed every moment becomes precious. We all will have a last day so make sure your last breath leaves something that will last forever. Make sure you live your life to live after you die. Live a life of purpose. Everyday is an opportunity to build your legacy. You can’t live your life on cruise control. It’ll just pass you by. Do something amazing. Let the beauty of what you love be what you do. Do something everyday that will make your heart smile. There’s more to life than working to pay your bills. Don’t get discouraged and locked into a boring lifestyle. Add some color to your world. Get out your comfort zone and make your dreams reality. Success starts within the mind and time is the only thing that can end it. If your life is full of the same routines, same people, same places and the same mindset, you’re cheating yourself and not living. You’re not pursuing a new reason to smile everyday and you’re destined to be unhappy that way. Use your limited time wisely focusing on purpose, happiness, love, positivity, peace and joy. If so much of what you waste your energy and time on won’t matter next month, then it’s pointless and worthless. If it won’t matter later, it isn’t worth your time now. Never kill time, you’ll only end up murdering the life you could’ve lived.

Don’t have time? You ever had a person tell you they don’t have time to contact you? Most people will say “I’m busy, I don’t have time”. But the real question is how are you spending the time that you do have? It’s never what you have time for, it’s what you make time for. Millions of people wake up every morning but most don’t take advantage of the opportunities a day brings. We are blessed with 24 hours a day in which most people sleep 8 hours, work for 8 hours, or go to school for 8 hours, commute from and to work or school for an hour, watch TV for about 2 hours and social network or be on the web for about 2 hours. That leaves 3 hours left in the day where people most likely spend it with certain people they tolerate and don’t even love or spend it doing things that have no benefits towards their life. Then we wonder why we don’t have loyal friends. Then we wonder why we overlook opportunities and aren’t prepared for opportunities when they come our way. Then we wonder why we living a life of no purpose and a life of boredom. We should not abuse our free time. Our free time should be mandatory to who matters in our lives. Our family and close friends or our loved ones should be a priority. Think about who you give your time to and why they get your time, do they deserve it? Take an inventory of the people in your life, if they aren’t of purpose and making you and the things around you better, you don’t need them. If someone doesn’t understand their own time, how can they value and respect yours? And what good is it to know your time is valuable and not be able to realize when somebody is wasting it? Time teaches you a lot about people. It can turn a best friend into a stranger. It reveals the liars, proves who’s genuine, shows who’s loyal and exposes the fakes. It doesn’t take long to see who’s really loyal in your corner and who’s just around because it’s convenient. Sometimes the best thing you can be to certain people is unavailable. Make people appreciate your time when they get it. Attention is very valuable. By paying attention to someone you are giving them your most valuable possession, your time. Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you won’t do anything with it. Also, always be considerate of other people’s time. If you say you’re going to do something, stick to your word and do it. If you decide to be someone’s friend, be a real loyal friend. And don’t expect to have someone’s time and attention if your can’t simply give them yours in return. Our free time should also be mandatory to what matters in our lives. That including our life’s opportunities. What we do with our time should bring us closer to our dreams and goals, not push us further away. It’s nothing worse than being unprepared for your opportunities in life. Remember, you should always be ready and never have to get ready for the things that you claim you’re ready for. Opportunities don’t work on your convenience so be ready when a opportunity knocks on your door because an opportunity will not wait.

I believe everything has it’s time but you have to understand the timing in certain things. You can’t just act when you want to act, you have to move while you can. People waste time and get mad when they don’t have enough of it. You can’t play around with your limited time and expect things to just get real and work out all of sudden. A door may be open but if the window of opportunity has passed, it might as well be closed. You can’t just assume that you have plenty of time because in reality you really don’t. This is life, it happens fast. If you’re not ready to go when it’s time to go, there are no guarantees that anything will wait for you. It’s important to recognize what you have while it’s in front of you, if you don’t, it won’t be long before it leaves you right where you are. You can’t keep leaving things undone hoping that time will finish them for you and in your favor. Stop sitting around waiting for life to cater to you and your wants because it never will. You don’t get the time you wasted back and you’re only lying to yourself if you think second chances are promised. Time is like makeup for women. The more you need it, the less it can do for you. Sometimes we get our hopes up for certain things and it rarely ever comes down to what we expected. And that’s because sometimes what we expect is a lot more than what we can handle. You can’t get frustrated and just shut down, if you’re going to be frustrated at least be frustrated making moves trying to do something, rather than doing nothing. What you’re not willing to fight for, somebody else is waiting for a chance with. Never take time for granted! Just because things don’t always go as planned does not mean things have gone wrong. Plans change and you have to be able to adapt to that in life. When you look back on your life and your decisions, make sure you’re proud of what you did with your time.

If you fail to use todays deposit, the lost is yours. There is no going back. You got to make the most of today, right here, right now.
Time = Life. Waste your time and waste your life. Or master your time and master your life.
To realize the value of 1 year, ask a student who failed a grade.
To realize the value of 1 month, ask the mother who gave birth to a pre-mature baby.
To realize the value of 1 week, ask the editor of the weekly newspaper.
To realize the value of 1 hour, ask the person who just missed the train.
To realize the value of 1 minute, ask the averaged person working a 8 hour shift looking at the time waiting to get out of work.
To realize the power of 1 second, ask the person that just avoided a car accident.

TIME WAITS FOR NO ONE.
YOU DON’T KEEP TRACK OF TIME, TIME KEEPS TRACK OF YOU.
There are 86,400 seconds in a day, but this means nothing to you if you don’t know how to use it. Make it count!
Spend it wisely or lose it foolishly! Your choice…

Simple Tips On Building Your Immune System.

by Jeremy Michaels

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You can fight off viruses when your immune system is strong. You can be in the same building, touch the same things, be sneezed upon and even share foods and drinks with others who are sick and you will not catch the virus or disease. Do you know why?

Because your immune system has a powerful army inside of you, equipped to fight these nasty viruses without you even consciously knowing it.
The immune system is the system in your body of biological structures and processes to protect against diseases. But you must build and maintain a powerful immune system in order for it to function properly and work effectively. Eating healthy = A strong immune system.

Here are some simple tips on building your immune system:

  • Eat alkaline foods. Most alkaline foods are simply the known vegetables you are aware of and know you should eat daily. Such as carrots, kale, cucumber, green peppers, red peppers, broccoli, spinach, avocado, turnip, cauliflower, beets, horseradish, cabbage, brussel sprouts, cayenne pepper, turmeric, garlic, swiss chard, mustard greens, celery, lemons, etc.

    The following is the 7 Most Alkaline foods:
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  • Juicing. Juicing daily with vegetables, fruits and herbs is a great way to boost your immune system. Juice with lemons, limes, grapefruits, cranberries, pomegranates and all the above alkaline foods.
  • Oregano Oil. (just a few drops in juice per day)
  • Astralgalus. (liquid form, just a few drops per day)
  • Turmeric. Garlic. Horseradish root. (in raw form)
  • Probiotics. Probiotics are good bacteria that benefits the body by boosting the immune system. These good bacteria help to support our health in many ways. There’s probiotics in a synthetic supplement pill form like vitamins, but I recommend getting your probiotics through food. The top foods that have probiotics are yogurt, kefir, pickles, sauerkraut, miso soup, kimchi, kombucha tea and dark chocolate.

Change & Growth. (A Better You)

by Jeremy Michaels

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Changing for the better is not a phase, it’s permanent growth. With our experiences, our mistakes, our struggles and life experiences comes maturity and growth. We must all think with an open mind and gain wisdom as we live. If you change your mindset about things, you’ll change your life. You can’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone and find your purpose in life. Of course you have your preferences, the things you like, the things you want and the things you prefer, but what if what you want is blocking you from what you need? What if what you like is keeping you from something you could love? What if what you prefer is stopping you from receiving what you deserve? What if the way you think is causing your life struggles? You can’t continue to live your life just going with what you’re “used to” because there’s no progress or happiness in that. I know it’s not always easy trying to grow out of what you’re used to, but greatness does not come from being comfortable. You won’t improve your circumstances if you are unwilling to improve yourself. And you won’t change unless you’re willing to make change.

Growth is very necessary and if anybody in your life acts like you’re a bad person for wanting to be a better person, simply eliminate them. Change is the one thing that is constant in life, yet it’s the only thing people feel the need to block when they can’t understand it. People change, feelings change, emotions change and situations change, it’s life. Change is what everybody is working so hard for since nobody grinds for things to stay the same. After a while certain things and certain people just won’t make sense to you anymore. Those old things you used to do won’t be as satisfying as they used to be. Just know when you change to a better you, make sure it’s into somebody you want to be, not somebody who everybody expects you to be. Be on the way to who you are despite the limitations anybody tries to put on you. We must all change for the better and grow as individuals to make our lifestyles more convenient. And in order to make this self change, one has to be wise and brave enough to put themselves in the position for it.

Accept failing without feeling like a failure. Accept being lied to without losing your ability to trust. You may have pain but hurt does not own you. You may have heartbreak but love has not left you. You may have moments of sadness but depression does not have you. Circumstances do not make you, it’s what you make out of circumstances that makes you. Stop looking back and stop looking down, either look up or look forward. You may get overwhelmed, you may get tired and you may feel lost, but you don’t have to claim any of that. You’re better and stronger because of the mistakes of yesterday and fully capable of handling the struggles of today. We should focus on where we’re going, focus on what’s really important and focus on preserving our happiness. There will be distractions, but don’t allow them to knock you off of your course. There will be people who don’t understand your change and criticize you for it but people that don’t know your story will always judge your life and will never matter anyway. If you didn’t give them a chance to make you happy, don’t give them the power to make you mad. Don’t let these types of individuals cause you to backtrack but let them motivate you to keep pushing forward. Let their criticism build confidence in your positive change by reminding you of how far you’ve come. Stay out the bucket and don’t let the crabs pull you back in. Keep growing and hopefully one day your growth will inspire them to do the same. Remember that the more right you live your life, the more wrong will leave your life. Stay true to who you are and what you know is right. Use everything that happens to you for you and if it can’t better you, don’t let it change you. If you don’t like it, change it and if you can’t change it, change your attitude and perspective about it. It’s not about wishing you could change the past, it’s about focusing on the now and creating a better future. It’s not about the hurt, it’s about the healing. It’s not about the negativity around you, it’s about remaining positive no matter what circumstances. It’s not about the fear of failing, it’s about the chance to succeed. At this point, if anything you’ve been through in life was meant to stop you, it would have. God has big plans for each and every one of us and we must learn to trust and have faith in that.

Until you decide to change and grow, listening and reading the best advice is pointless. Just remember the best room in your life is the room for self improvement. Simply because there will always be room for improvement no matter how great you are. You can’t make permanent change with a temporary mindset so you must be consistent in improving yourself. An internal fight is the first sign of growth. It’s so easy to resort back to old ways and doing things that really aren’t the best for you out of habit because in the absence of effort there’s no need for struggle, however you need to understand that old habits can continuously bring you new pain, especially when you refuse to change for the better. We all struggle but if you really want a better life, you’d make the necessary changes for yourself. If you know better, do better. Poor life choices, poor health, poor relationships, poor financial states and poor attitudes are often the result of poor choices. I will never understand someone who knows better but does wrong on purpose. A lot of people who purposely do wrong are the same people who play the victim and suffer from the results of the decisions they voluntarily made. Don’t be one of those people. Don’t limit your smiles by showing your pride. Don’t limit your future by living in your past. Don’t let the things you can’t change stop you from changing the things you can change. Don’t limit your abilities, just keep working on becoming a better you. It’s never too late to change and grow, simply because it’s a natural process that begins at birth and continues for the rest of our lives. But grow up before life outgrows you!

Self Worth & Self Esteem.

by Jeremy Michaels

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Knowing your self worth is one of the best things you can understand in life. Your self worth has nothing to do with checking your bank balance, it’s about the value in you. We give others respect, love and consideration but how often do we give ourselves what is due? We must all set the standards for our lives because each and every one of us are worthy. How you determine your worth and value is based on your self esteem. People are often confused about what it means to have self esteem. Some think it has to do with the way you look or how popular you are. Others believe that having a great body will help you gain self esteem, while others think you actually need to have accomplished something in order to have good self esteem. But self esteem simply means accepting and appreciating yourself for who you are. Finding and developing your self worth is all about developing your self esteem. Healthy self esteem leads to independence, happiness, flexibility, the ability to adapt easily to change and grow and a positive outlook on any situation in life. Unhealthy or low self esteem on the other hand leads only to irrational thoughts, unhappiness, fear of the new, insecurities, defensiveness and a negative outlook on life in general.

There are plenty of ways in which we can boost our self esteem to have a more positive and healthy mindset about ourselves. First of all, your self worth should never be determined or validated by others. You are worth more than you can ever prove. As a society, we are sometimes guilty of measuring our self worth by public and social opinions and criticism. We must learn to accept ourselves the way we are and understand that what people think and say simply doesn’t matter. Self acceptance is a powerful way to boost our self esteem. It’s acknowledging the fact that nobody is perfect and everybody has faults, and those faults don’t play a role in our self image. It’s being happy with who we are and not being a slave to the needs that we’re taught to believe in. It’s being secured in yourself and having confidence in your abilities. Self acceptance is simply believing in yourself. It doesn’t mean that there aren’t things you’d like to change or new directions you’d like to go, it simply means that you’ve accepted yourself, with all your flaws and imperfections, and now you can start moving in the positive directions you want and need for your life. Another way to have a good healthy self esteem is to appreciate yourself. Sometimes you have to remind yourself how blessed you really are. Self appreciation starts from within, it’s a reflection of how you feel about yourself and how grateful you are of yourself. It’s a pure necessity if you want to connect to your inner peace and move in life with strength and confidence. The more you are able appreciate yourself, the more you will be able to appreciate others and in return you will see more people starting to appreciate you and recognizing your self worth.

The 10 Powers of “Self”:

  1. Self love.
  2. Self worth.
  3. Self esteem.
  4. Self acceptance.
  5. Self appreciation.
  6. Self confidence.
  7. Self belief.
  8. Self control.
  9. Self awareness.
  10. Self growth.

Wisdom.

by Jeremy Michaels

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Wisdom is your good perspective or good judgement, your insight. It’s your deep understanding and realization of people, things and life’s situations. It’s your morality, emotional stability and compassion. It reflects your values and morals that you apply to your lifestyle. It’s a personal quality that increases with age and experience. As you self improve yourself, wisdom will come naturally as you learn from life’s situations. You gain wisdom from your experiences, mistakes, observations and through knowledge and understanding. Wisdom can be learned and gathered but it can’t be taught. I can’t teach you wisdom, you must learn wisdom on your own. Words will make you rich, understanding them makes you wise. Think of being wise as a goal to self develop yourself. The key to wisdom is not about how much you think you know, it’s always about allowing yourself to learn at all times. Wisdom is knowing what to tolerate and what to terminate or knowing what to overlook. This website is full of wisdom tips and it’s all a matter of your perspective to understand it and apply it to your life.

Life isn’t a bitch, life is a book and we should all read her. Life talks so learn to listen, listen to learn and learn to understand. You gain wisdom from understanding your experiences and mistakes. Most people are carrying bags of frustration because they know their life but don’t understand their story. Self awareness is a necessity. When you open up to life, you’ll hear the soul of the world and listen to it’s lesson. Wisdom is the power of understanding. You can’t truly learn or obtain something which you don’t understand. Ask yourself what’s the point of seeing everything if you’re always missing the point? People who think all the time without understanding have nothing to think about but thoughts. They lose touch with reality and live in a world of illusion. Without understanding, we’re unable to navigate in life. Knowing means nothing without understanding. The day I started to understand rather than just know, is the day the world changed around me. Sometimes the best thing to do in life is stop, think and reevaluate things. See, most fights are due to misunderstandings because we are far more ready to act than we are to understand. Think of life as a fight about to go down. You’re either going to think to understand and gain wisdom or you’re going to quickly act and suffer the consequences. It’s all up to you. Being wise will teach you that you don’t have to experience everything.

The Difference Between “Lust” and “Real Love”

by Jeremy Michaels

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The essence of love, from a relationship or marriage standpoint, is that real unconditional love grows over time and develops from going through the storms together. There is a difference between “love” and “in love” and it’s not what most people think.

What exactly does being “in love” mean? Being “in love” = lust.

A simple definition of “in love” would be a euphoric experience based on emotion, with two falling aimlessly for someone they don’t know. Falling “in love” is not love at all. Falling “in love” is lust. We do not fall “in love”, we grow to love. Real love grows over time and it is not based on an emotion, but a choice. So, if someone believes love is a choice, it’s impossible to believe being “in love” means more than “loving” someone. The entire concept of being “in love” is based on emotion and being on ‘Cloud 9’ when we first meet someone we really like.

You see, every relationship will pass through the “lust” or “in love” phase in the beginning and stay in that phase as long as the couple fails to seek true growth in the relationship. Typically, though, that “in love” phase will last between 2 to 24 months (or even longer for secret love affairs). In the “in love” stage of love, people will do and say anything to keep who they love happy, but the actions are purely based on emotions. Lust is a temporary place in the early stages of the relationship, but to grow to deeper levels of bonding we have to move out of it at some point and grow into “love.”

Here are some things you need to remember about being “in love” aka “lust”:

  • “In love” or “lust” is a euphoric experience.
  • “In love” or “lust” is an illusion and counterfeit of real love.
  • “In love” or “lust” is not better than “love”. It’s, actually, the lowest form of love because it’s not a conscious choice to love.
  • “In love” or “lust” is an emotional high (much like taking drugs or drinking).
  • “In love” or “lust” takes you over. Thus, you will often “fall” for the wrong person.
  • “In love” or “lust” takes no effort. Real love requires effort.
  • “In love” or “lust”  is usually associated with someone trying to heal from wounds or terminate aloneness on the hearts of other people.
  • “In love” or “lust” keeps you blind and will limit you in getting to know someone.
  • “In love” or “lust” means you are emotionally obsessed.
  • “In love” or “lust” means you have an illusion that your mate or the relationship is perfect.
  • “In love” or “lust” deceives you in believing that warm, tingly feeling on the inside is the real thing called “love.”
  • “In love” or “lust” is usually conditional, temporary, lifeless, selfish, manipulative, disloyal, shallow, obsessive and uses.

If you truly desire “real love”, you eventually have to come down from the clouds of “in love” and allow your feet to touch the ground. Once your feet touch ground, you can join hands and walk as one towards “growing” to love instead of “falling” in love. The in love lust experience does not focus on true growth and relationship development. It’s goal is based in emotional feelings and not the “real” parts of the person. “In love” comes crashing down once the emotion is removed, which means you never “really” loved, you just were “in love” or lusted. Once the “in love” phase has run its course, the reality of the relationship will be revealed.

Now, let’s talk about real and authentic love that you grow into and not fall into based on emotion. Now, for just a minute, think about all the bad relationship mistakes you have made based on emotional decision making. How many people have you had sex with on emotion during this being “in love” lust stage? How many people have you entered into a relationship with when you shouldn’t have, based on being “in love”? If we are being honest and accountable, most of us have. This is why the “in love” lust stage is just a place we pass through on our way to “real” unconditional love.

So, what is real love? In its simplest form, real love is a pure choice we make to love someone (regardless of their faults or imperfections) without our emotions blinding or misleading us. When two people truly love one another, they seek to grow to create something much greater than themselves.

Here are some things that describe “Real Love”:

  • “Real love” is unconditional.  It’s promising, lasting, fulfilling, comforting, peace, joy and happiness.
  • “Real love” is a choice. Just like happiness, love is a choice you make from moment to moment.
  • “Real love” is giving.  When you genuinely care, you’ll naturally give. Especially things like time, effort and attention.
  • “Real love” is valuable.  If it’s not adding value to your life, it’s not love, it’s dead weight. Love builds, lust destroys.
  • “Real love” is loyalty. It’s consistent through the good and the bad. If the love leaves during the storm, it was never really there.
  • “Real love” is sharing. Love only grows by sharing. You can only have more for yourself by giving it away to others.
  • “Real love” is compromising. It understands that even when she sees an apple and he sees an orange, they both can still agree that it’s a fruit.
  • “Real love” is selfless. It’s about serving, supporting, sacrificing, giving, appreciating and caring. Love is what we give and not what we get.
  • “Real love” is passion. It’s enjoyable, inspiring, free and without limits.
  • “Real love” is working. Love is the ultimate responsibility.
  • “Real love” is forgiving. The ability to forgive is a form of unconditional love.
  • “Real love” is peace. Love will always win any fight.
  • “Real love” is constructive. it builds you up, makes you better, adds value to your existence. We were all built to love in different ways.
  • “Real love” is empowerment. True love helps you become a better you. It’s inspiring, influencing, encouraging and impacting.
  • “Real love” is attentive. It knows the importance of detail. Paying attention is a simple thing that makes the biggest difference.
  • “Real love” is sacrifice. It teaches the necessity of setting your pride aside. Being right doesn’t matter as much as being happy.
  • “Real love” is pure, deep, life-giving, life-long, committed, faithful, generous, loyal, honest, accepts, cares, gives, understands, waits, adores and sympathizes.

Love will have emotion just like lust but there is a huge difference. When you truly love someone, your emotions are not based in an “obsession” or illusion. Real love doesn’t cause you to lose your mind to the point that you become irresponsible in your decision making. Real love requires effort, discipline, hard work, and a need for a couple to hold hands and walk as one. Our basic human need is not in falling in love, but in authentically being loved by another; and real love grows out of a choice. We should desire love from someone who chooses to love us unconditionally, not from someone who is just high on emotional drugs and claiming to love us.

The emotional need for love must be met if love is going to be healthy and based on pure love. Love works and it is a very powerful motivator. We were “all” born with a need for love.. Man was created to love a woman and woman was created to love a man. No relationship is successful without real, unconditional love. This type of love is not discovered in the “in love” stage and, until people move out of that stage, their love will be forever challenged by unhealthy emotional decision making.

 

 

Follow Your Instincts & Intuition.

by Jeremy Michaels

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Life whispers to you all the time. Learn to listen to your intuition. Learn to believe in what you feel. Learn to be strong in your faith. When your heart tells you you’re right, don’t think twice when your mind tells you you’re wrong. Trust your instincts, it’s the part of you that won’t allow you to be taken advantage of. If you don’t trust your intuition you’ll never be able to guard your heart properly. So many people make the mistake of second guessing whether what they’re doing is right or wrong according to other people. Everything isn’t always as black as white as people cut it out to be. What’s right to you could be wrong by somebody else. Go with what you know is right and let your intuition guide you. If you’re going to have regrets, at least let them be off of your own decisions, especially when dealing with people. If something tells you you’re dealing with a liar, then you’re probably dealing with a liar. If something tells you there’s more to a situation than what is on the surface, then it’s probably more to that situation. If something makes you feel like your time is being taken for granted, then it probably is. When something weighs heavy on your mind, trust that it may be true. When you have that gut feeling, don’t ignore it. It’s there for a reason, even if you don’t know exactly why at the moment. Sooner or later, you’ll see everything for what it is. What’s real will show and what’s fake will go. Stop ignoring your instincts for the sake of reasoning. There are some situations logic just can’t guide you through. You can easily over think or be misinformed on a situation, but your instincts will rarely ever give you the wrong feeling. You have to trust what you know. Just make sure it’s your instincts talking and not bitterness or fear. Most people are confused about what they should do next because they fog the vision of their intuition with regrets and fears. You can’t move forward if you’re afraid to step up. And you can’t make the right decisions if you’re afraid to make a choice. Trust what you know and have faith in what you feel. You won’t always strike gold but you can still find a treasure. Your instincts and intuition are a blessing so when you ignore them you make your heart numb and your eyes blind. We should all become wiser, trust our intuition and verify our assumptions.

My Handsome Nephew & The Beauties of Life.

by Jeremy Michaels

Everybody meet my handsome nephew, Melvin Rodriguez…

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One day I was at home watching my nephew Melvin play. He was going to be 1 years old in a month. As I sat there watching my nephew playing with his toys, I reflected on life. He was so free, so full of life and so happy just playing with his little toys. To me observing kids is the best way to figure out life. Watching a child learning to walk will put life in perspective. They fall, they cry, they get back up with a smile and try again. They don’t stress tomorrow, they don’t cry about yesterday and they give today everything. Sure they don’t have bills, much responsibility or any life issues yet, but in ways they’re smarter than us “adults”. We hold on to too much unnecessary things. The lies, the pain, the hurt and our problems are held on to and we allow it to ruin us. We get so “smart” about life that we lose the ability to actually live it. We become unproductive pessimists. We want to remember every mistake, every lie, every disappointment and stress every critic instead of learning from life’s issues and moving on. See, it’s more to life than dwelling on what went wrong. You have to want to laugh more than be mad, you have to want to smile more than you want you to cry, you have to want to solve your problems more than complain. The beauties of life don’t fade with age, we just lose sight of what’s really important too soon. We should never let the unnecessary matter for too long. And most importantly we should never let the irrelevant matter at all. We should become smart enough to recognize the irrelevant and be strong enough to ignore it. Peace of mind comes more from knowing what to ignore than it does from everything going perfectly.

Your Mindset & Perspective.

by Jeremy Michaels

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Your mindset is everything when it comes to your life. Whether you’re a open minded, close minded, a positive thinker, a negative thinker or an over thinker makes a huge difference. If you change the way you look and think of things, the things you look at change. It’s all a matter of perspective. Self improvement is all about changing the way you think. Your perspective and what your thoughts consist of are ultimately the factors on how happy you choose to be in life. It’s the key factor in determining whether you’ll blame yourself for doing wrong or teach yourself a new way to do right. In most life situations, perspective is everything when it comes to gaining understanding. Sometimes in life you have to step back and look at things from a different angle. You must think about what you think about. A simple change of perspective could be the easiest, most effective way towards changing your lifestyle. Our minds is our sacred space, you can either close the windows and darken your space or you can open the windows and let the light in. It’s your choice. The sun is always shining on some part of our lives and it’s up to us to realize that. What do you typically think about? Do you think positive or negative? You think more about the best that could happen or the worst that might happen? Pay attention to the way you think in your everyday life situations because most likely, the only thing that needs to shift in order for you to experience more happiness, more love and more success, is your way of thinking.

See, you can’t control certain life situations, but you can control your perspective and reaction to it. Your life is simply a domino effect of your attitude and perspective. Think of your perspective as your mind’s paintbrush. We are what we think. We as humans don’t really see things as they are, we see them as we are. You are what you believe and what you say is in fact, your story and your reality. We are the stories we tell ourselves and we create conscious connections in order to understand. What we read, interpret and think about becomes our truth, regardless if it’s not. That’s why it’s important to value truth over lies, fact over opinions and reality over fantasy. Don’t believe everything you think about because truth is the battle of perception. We all see our world reflected in ourselves and ourselves as a reflection of our world. We are the authors and the protagonists of our own stories and our stories are always projections of ourselves. By shifting the perspective from which we view the world, we’ll also be seeing ourselves differently. See, in order to create a better you, you must change the way you think because your mindset is everything. If you’ve ever tried changing your behavior without first changing your perspective, you’ve probably met some form of failure. See, with this website, I’m not trying to change the way people live, I’m simply opening people’s minds and trying to change their perspectives of life in a positive way. We must all adjust our perceptions in order to grow and change our lives for the better. So how you living? Or how you thinking?