The Manual To Break Your Own Heart.

by Jeremy Michaels

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  • Staying in a relationship for all the wrong reasons when it’s clearly giving you all the right reasons to leave.
  • Knowing what’s good for you but still doing what’s bad for you.
  • Satisfy others by unsatisfying yourself.
  • Overlooking the person your heart needs for the person your eyes want.
  • Pretending not to see what your eyes have been opened up to.
  • Searching for signs when you already got reasons.
  • Expecting something different from a situation that hasn’t changed.
  • Being faithful to pleasing someone but being unfaithful to your morals and values.
  • Giving all of you to a person that deserves nothing from you.
  • Hanging on to the words of a person instead of their actions.
  • Trusting a person that constantly proves they aren’t trustworthy.
  • Teaching yourself the same lessons that you aren’t learning from.

Know your worth! Don’t break your own heart. What you accept and allow in a relationship shows the amount of value, love and respect you have for yourself. Only people who don’t love themselves accept what they don’t deserve.

Why Is He Single?

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I’m Single Because…I’m focusing on my goals and being successful. Focusing on what makes me truly happy at the moment. I have priorities and dreams and my attention are focused on them. Until “she” comes in my life naturally and becomes my priority and dream. I’d rather love to come naturally than to unnecessarily force it.

I’m Single Because…I haven’t came across a woman with a strong connection for us to even be together. As of this moment, I’ve still have yet to experience that deep sense of connectivity and love that’s necessary for me to go into a commitment. In my years of living, I’ve experience all types of relationships except a true love one backed by trust, loyalty, communication, consistency, motivation and effort.

I’m Single Because…I refuse to fall in “lust” like most people. If there’s no true feelings there, I will not commit. I refuse to my waste “my” time or “her” time. If I’m not ready to take her heart, I will tell her that to save her heart instead of leading her to “lust” to break her heart. I don’t do situationships or false relationships. I understand the value of commitment. I won’t be in a false commitment like most people. It gotta be real. It gotta be true. It gotta be love. I gotta feel it.

I’m Single Because…never will I settle for less than what I deserve. I know my worth and I know what I want and deserve. She has to be worth my time.

The Top 10 Reasons Why Men Cheat.

by Jeremy Michaels

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1 – He’s not ready for love and commitment. A man not ready for something true is actually a grown boy. Grown boys get into relationships to play games and cheating is simply one of their options. Grown boys are usually young minded and lack self discipline.

2 – The thought that he simply can get away with it. What eyes don’t see, the heart doesn’t feel. The assumption that no one will find out and no one will get hurt is reason enough for some men to cheat, thinking they’ll never get caught and get away with it.

3 – It boosts his ego. Nothing lifts the self esteem and confidence of an insecure man like discovering that other women still desire them sexually. Sometimes men no longer feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. When he’s rewarded for their efforts, his ego becomes even bigger.

4 – The opportunity was there. The old saying “men are only faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as much as women so when the opportunity presents itself, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down. It’s an uncontested fact that most men can’t say “no” to sex, especially from an attractive woman. Most men lack self control and can’t resist temptation.

5 – To get revenge. A man will sometimes cheat on his woman if he finds out she cheated on him. It’s  a wrong way to heal those hurt feelings of his.

6 – He doesn’t love his woman anymore. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of certain reasons but seek love or sex elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to a win-win as they can get.

7 – His woman doesn’t turn him on anymore. Sometimes men will cheat to mentally and physically get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. A woman constantly nagging and complaining may result to a man getting completely turned off and cheating. And sometimes men will cheat because they’re emotionally unsatisfied or don’t feel wanted or needed by their partner.

8 – He isn’t getting “great sex” or “adventurous sex” from his woman. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try. He will simply find what’s lacking elsewhere. It’s important to always keep the sex between you and your partner refreshing and interesting, so it won’t become boring and non-existent.

9 – He isn’t getting enough sex from his woman. If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there’s a good chance he will cheat. Instead of breaking up with his woman, he will keep her there and find sex elsewhere. Sex is one of the main reasons men cheat.

10 – For the thrill. It’s new, different, challenging and exciting. Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and wants to try a hamburger. The same goes for a relationship with a woman. It’s the thrill and excitement of a new face, a new body and new sex that will make most men wander. Boredom usually triggers the need for something new.

The 10 Worst Assumptions To Make In Relationships.

by Jeremy Michaels

1 – Don’t assume the feelings are mutual. Pay attention to their actions, words and effort and make sure they consistently match.

2 – Don’t assume that ignoring the problem will solve it or make it go away. If you don’t care to try to fix things and compromise, you don’t deserve to be in a relationship.

3 – Don’t assume you’re the only one who’s been hurt. We all lost, we all been through pain and struggles, been cheated, heartbroken and lied to. Guard your partner’s heart the same way you protect yours.

4 – Don’t assume things are understood. Be clear, direct and open to talk. Communicating shouldn’t be a problem if you want something real.

5 – Don’t assume love will be easy. It’s more than passionate feelings and sweet words. You have to work at it, consistently. Love is a choice.

6 – Don’t assume you know more than you do. If it hasn’t been shown to you or spoken to you first hand, you don’t really know.

7 – Don’t assume second chances are guaranteed. The good ones don’t go backwards often.

8 – Don’t assume words can replace effort. You have to show more than talk more. Anybody can talk the talk, not everybody can walk the walk.

9 – Don’t assume that just because you think you want it, means you automatically deserve to have it. You have to work to get it and work to keep it.

10 – Don’t assume a beautiful, fulfilling, lasting relationship has to be perfect. If you only connect when you’re “up”, things will breakdown.

8 Things Every Man Wants In A Woman.

by Jeremy Michaels

Us men are really simple creatures. Most of us don’t desire much. However, the little we do desire means the world to us. Some women often make the mistake of thinking men are really moved by physical appearance (and yes there’s some truth to that), but only for a short period of time. Gentlemen of worth consider beauty a bonus. We truly desire a woman with substance.

Here Are 8 Things Every Man Wants in a Woman:

1 – The ability to love him unconditionally. A man likes to know his woman will always be there for him, still loving him… even if he fails her. Through the good times, bad times and tough times, he wants his woman’s unconditional love.

2 – The ability to be his friend. A man loves a woman who can truly be his friend. Many men feel friendship and companionship is very important because it creates an environment of sharing, openness, and the ability to truly get to know and keep a woman.

3 – The hold you down mindset. This is the type of woman who holds her man down whether he has $2 or $2,000,000. The loyal woman is very famous, indeed, and us men absolutely love this type of woman.

4 – Availability. A man needs a woman who is single and fully available. This means she is living free from any emotional residue from a past relationship. She has healed from her previous hurt and is not seeking to numb pain through a new relationship. She is able to be completely transparent with him, because she has been honest with herself about her past experiences.

5 – Character and a good mindset. We appreciate personality but we live with character and mindset. Character and mindset is truly best represented by the decisions we make and actions we take. A man wants a woman with high moral standards whose actions align with her good intentions. This is the type of woman he is able to trust with his dreams, visions, and goals. This is the type of woman he knows he can grow with.

6 – Exercises emotional stability. This doesn’t mean you turn off emotions, but it does mean you are not living on emotion and making emotionally based decisions all the time. It’s difficult for a man to trust a woman who acts on emotion all the time. Managing emotion is critical.

7 – Ability to be fun. Every man desires a fun woman. One who is playful and exciting or funny and outgoing. Don’t be so classy that you can’t be a little nasty. Don’t live so serious that you become a party pooper.

8 – Independence. Men don’t desire a weaker vessel to control or simply take care of. He wants an independent woman. One who can add to what he brings to her life. He especially likes a woman who is independent, but knows how to be interdependent within a relationship.

10 Benefits of Having a Real Woman. (for the fellas)

By Jeremy Michaels

1. A real woman is a treasure if she’s treated right. When you take care of something good, that something good takes care of you.

2. A real woman adds value to everything in your life. She turns good into great, she inspires excellence and makes you better.

3. A real woman is a teacher. She isn’t perfect, she’s just worth the effort. Even her flaws will inspire you to love her harder.

4. A real woman is incomparable. Few things are more valuable in this world than the love of a loyal woman.

5. A real woman balances things out. She knows when to push, when to pull, or when to just pray.

6. A real woman understands that patience is a virtue. She won’t rush things, she appreciates when things happen naturally.

7. A real woman will challenge you. She won’t settle for anything but your best and she’ll prove that’s what she deserves.

8. A real woman won’t distract you from your dreams, she’ll inspire you to be more determined to reach them.

9. A real woman isn’t concerned with the unnecessary, she only addresses what matters. Her focus keeps you focused.

10. A real woman is a true friend. Her love will build you up and her companionship will keep you happy.

To my gentlemen out there, go get yourself a “real woman”.

Letter of Appreciation For My Mom. (I Am Love)

by Jeremy Michaels

Dear Mom,

To simply say thank you, just wouldn’t be enough. The strength in the word woman defines you. Every positive quality, every mention of grace and love, you represent it all. You are a walking Mother’s day and I celebrate, appreciate and acknowledge you daily.

Because you’re a great woman of worth, I’m a great man of worth.

It was your vision that aided my dreams, your support that allowed me to go out and impact the world, and your faith that I knew I will become successful one day. Great men don’t do great things alone, it takes women like you – to push us, challenge us, inspire us and build us up when we’re in doubt, when we’re going through hard times and when we need to regain focus.

You are my queen. You are my favorite person. You are my best friend. You are my mother.

You helped me become the great person I am today.

I made and make mistakes, I have flaws, and I made and make errors in judgment. And there’s still so much I don’t know about life. There’s so much I’ve yet to learn and discover about my path. There’s so much I’ve yet to see, but one thing is for sure; I know love when I see it. I know what love does for people. I know how it changes them. I recognize the growth it requires, I acknowledge the giving it inspires and I’ve experienced and witnessed your love my whole life. I know love. And everyday I recognize it in you. I Am Love because you are love.

I understand the selflessness that allowed you to share your heart to the world. My dreams is the reflection of your love and faith. My work is the result of your respect for my passion. My legacy is founded on the genuineness of your love and support. I wouldn’t have had this beautiful life of greatness, if I didn’t have you.

Great women have this mystery about them. And one thing you’ve shown me about great women is that they don’t have to say anything, they just have the power to make their presence alone speak volumes. You never stop giving, even when you’re feeling unappreciated, even when you’re getting taken for granted, you continue to love. God knows you’re a great woman.

I appreciate the greatness in you. I appreciate you loving a man and believing in him enough to stay there, I appreciate you loving me, my sister and my brother and raising us right to the best of your abilities. I appreciate you giving, selflessly. You’ve never reminded us of what you lost, you’ve just chosen to live in love, and because you’ve done that, and continue to do that, I grew to be just like you and I’m able to call myself love today.

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I am eternally grateful.

Love your son,

Jeremy Michaels

10 Red Flags To Help Women Know They’re Wasting Their Time With The Wrong Man.

By Jeremy Michaels

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I bet there’s a lot of women out there who are feeling a sense of turmoil in their current relationship. And they ask themselves “Is this a relationship I should stay in?” “Do I love him enough to deal with this treatment I don’t deserve?” “Am I wasting my time?” “Should I break-up with him?”

If you’re a woman who is  trying to determine whether or not you are with the right man, there are some fundamental and foundational things for you to consider.

Here are 10 red flags to help you know if you’re wasting your time on the wrong man:

Red Flag #1: He treats you differently in front of other people. This means behind closed doors he’s so loving and kind, but amongst friends or family he’s very distant and/or acts strange. It’s like you don’t recognize him or know the real him. This man most likely has another women or isn’t proud to have you as his woman.

Red Flag #2: He doesn’t give you his time. He doesn’t prioritize you or put you first on his schedule. He doesn’t put forth effort and doesn’t appreciate your valuable time. He treats you like a secondary and most likely associates himself with other women and keeps you there as the main one or side chick.

Red Flag #3: He doesn’t show effort. Those type of guys who go all out on Valentine’s day but are ghost in their efforts for the rest of the year is a perfect example of this type of man. You can’t settle on temporary happiness and crumbs of love. If time is invested, effort is expected. Sometimes you don’t notice how much you’re putting into a person, up until you realize the effort isn’t mutual.

Red Flag #4: He doesn’t appreciate you and your worth. You lose what you fail to appreciate. A man who doesn’t appreciate you, doesn’t deserve you. Move on, even if you got feelings for him. When you’re not loved, valued and appreciated, you’re at the same time missing out on a good man who will love, value and appreciate you.

Red Flag #5: He doesn’t put forth effort to keep things new and refreshing. Everything from going out, communication, romance and sex must be refreshing and kept feeling new or it will die out and eventually get old. If he doesn’t put effort to keep things new and refreshing, the relationship will not last. This type of man is the lazy type, one not interested enough to make things exclusive, better and stronger.

Red Flag #6: He doesn’t keep his word. A man who doesn’t keep his word is actually a grown boy. You should avoid grown boys at all costs because they aren’t ready for love and relationships. Grown boys are usually busy living a lie trying to impress women and trying to sleep with them all. If he doesn’t respect you enough to keep things real with you and be consistent, then he’ll only be great at lies and inconsistency.

Red Flag #7: He doesn’t take his time to really get to know you. One word of caution I always give to women is to watch out for a man who is in a hurry to wine or dine you. If he’s truly interested in you for the right reasons, he’ll be trying to gain trust and develop a friendship with you. If he’s rushing, it’s because he is after something.

Red Flag #8: He got selfish ways. No matter the looks or personality, you live with character. So if he’s selfish, only thinking about himself and not thinking about you or an “us” then he should be replaced. When you give to the selfish expect to be taken for granted. Lust is selfish, love is selfless.

Red Flag #9: All he wants is sex. This type of man isn’t ready for a commitment, even if he claims he is. Sex should become a sport once you’re in a good relationship. It should be the great deserving perk, not something to desperately ask for. If you’re being pressured to open your legs, you’re dealing with another grown boy.

Red Flag #10: He doesn’t make you happy. Happiness is everything. If he isn’t making you happy on the daily basis then he shouldn’t make you sad. Know your worth!

10 Tips To Become a Lover.

By Jeremy Michaels

1. Be understanding. You may not always like how they do things, but if you know their intentions are good, don’t kill them for mistakes.

2. Be compassionate. Everybody deals with hurt in their own way, don’t judge them just because they deal with things differently than you.

3. Be patient. Love is a journey so don’t start rushing things. The more natural it happens, the longer it’ll last.

4. Be loving. Understand how to get through to them even when times are rough. Love connects, love heals and love strengthens.

5. Be honest. Don’t hold back, be fair with the truth. Don’t cheat them out of something they deserve to know.

6. Be straight forward. Everything eventually comes to the light, care enough to let them decide what they can and cannot handle.

7. Be sincere. If you give your word, keep it. If you say you care, be fully invested. Don’t have them second guessing.

8. Be considerate. Don’t expect anybody to respect “part-time” feelings. If you can’t give your 100%, don’t ask them to.

9. Be balanced. Don’t be so demanding that you push them away. Know when to challenge and know when to let things flow.

10. Be vulnerable. Be strong enough to let them get close to you. If you want to build something real, don’t front about how you really feel.

10 More Relationship Tips To End Your Night With.

By Jeremy Michaels

1 – Find whatever is lacking in you and fulfill it. Until you do that, every man/woman you come across will come up short.

2 – Learn how to make him or her wonder. Don’t share every detail about your life within social networks.

3 – Be busy. No man or woman will appreciate the time of a woman or man that’s always available. You never want to be the convenient person. All they get is leftovers.

4 – Reciprocate the simple things. If he or she makes your smile a priority, do the same.

5 – A wise woman or wise man is humble. He or she will take the time to teach a deserving woman/man how to treat them.

6 – Put how you feel out there, you’ll have no choice to dwell if you always hold back.

7 – Don’t overkill issues. Learn how to communicate about things and let them go. Being in love will ask you to step out your comfort zone, sacrifice and compromise. If you can’t agree to that, a relationship isn’t for you.

8 – Make sure you’re over your past. It’s okay not to be, just let it be known. The truth is always better than wasted time.

9 – Don’t make assumptions. If you have a question, ask it. If you don’t care to ask then you don’t deserve to know.

10 – If you had a good man or a good woman and didn’t appreciate him or her, don’t complain about the bad ones you’re left to deal with.